भावनांच्या किनार्याला कधी अंत नसतो
अपेक्षेच्या डोहात सतत मन बुडत असत
माहिती नाही नकळत आजही डोळे पाणावतात
वाटेने जाताना आजही पाय अड्खळतात
नकोश्या असणार्या गोष्टी आजही मधे येतात
वाटेत येउन उगाच वाट हरवतात
पुन्हा पुन्हा मनं अड़खळलेली वाट शोधून काढत
आकाशाच्या दिशेने भरधाव वेगाने धावत
पक्षाचे पंख कापावे तसा आयुष्यावर वार होतो
तरी पण आयुष्य वाट शोधत असतो
कारण भावनांच्या किनार्याला कधी अंत नसतो
Sunday, January 2, 2011
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Friday, June 18, 2010
change....what is this word actually means....
we call it the matter of fact but i call it the destiny...which is i guess one at the same thing...coz fact and destiny is equal to some extent....
I hate change...this is what i always say and most of the people say too...there are very few people who actually say we love change(atleast what i have seen)..but its just a sentence....deep down no one wants that...whatever we get in our life it may be happiness or sorrows; it may be success or failures we actually accept it and then we live with it cursing our destiny but we never tend to change it....we get so settled with it that human nature of ours just simply deny to accept....
But somewhere this is where we close our barriers of exploring life we just put limits on us and we move on like that...
we call it the matter of fact but i call it the destiny...which is i guess one at the same thing...coz fact and destiny is equal to some extent....
I hate change...this is what i always say and most of the people say too...there are very few people who actually say we love change(atleast what i have seen)..but its just a sentence....deep down no one wants that...whatever we get in our life it may be happiness or sorrows; it may be success or failures we actually accept it and then we live with it cursing our destiny but we never tend to change it....we get so settled with it that human nature of ours just simply deny to accept....
But somewhere this is where we close our barriers of exploring life we just put limits on us and we move on like that...
Thursday, April 1, 2010
Chetan Bhagat's speech in Symbiosis college Pune......a must read....
ranscript of the speech by Chetan Bhagat delivered at Symbiosis Pune
Good Morning everyone and thank you for giving me this chance to speak to you. This day is about you. You, who have come to this college, leaving the comfort of your homes (or in some cases discomfort), to become something in your life.
I am sure you are excited. There are few days in human life when one is truly elated. The first day in college is one of them. When you were getting ready today, you felt a tingling in your stomach. What would the auditorium be like, what would the teachers be like, who are my new classmates - there is so much to be curious about.
I call this excitement, the spark within you that makes you feel truly alive today. Today I am going to talk about keeping the spark shining. Or to put it another way, how to be happy most, if not all the time.
Where do these sparks start? I think we are born with them. My 3-year old twin boys have a million sparks. A little Spiderman toy can make them jump on the bed. They get thrills from creaky swings in the park. A
story from daddy gets them excited. They do a daily countdown for birthday party â€" several months in advance â€" just for the day they will cut their own birthday cake.
I see students like you, and I still see some sparks. But when I see older people, the spark is difficult to find. That means as we age, the spark fades.People whose spark has faded too much are dull, dejected, aimless and bitter. Remember Kareena in the first half of Jab We Met vs the second half? That is what happens when the spark is lost. So how to save the spark?
Imagine the spark to be a lamp's flame. The first aspect is nurturing - to give your spark the fuel, continuously. The second is to guard against storms.
To nurture, always have goals. It is human nature to strive, improve and achieve full potential. In fact, that is success. It is what is possible for you. It isn't any external measure - a certain cost to company pay package, a particular car or house.
Most of us are from middle class families. To us, having material landmarks is success and rightly so. When you have grown up where money constraints force everyday choices,financial freedom is a big achievement. But it isn't the purpose of life. If that was the case, Mr. Ambani would not show up for work. Shah Rukh Khan would stay at home and not dance anymore. Steve Jobs won't be working hard to make a better iPhone, as he sold Pixar for billions of dollars already.
Why do they do it? What makes them come to work everyday?
They do it because it makes them happy.They do it because it makes them feel alive. Just getting better from current levels feels good. If you study hard, you can improve your rank. If you make an effort to
interact with people, you will do better in interviews. If you practice, your cricket will get better. You may also know that you cannot become Tendulkar, yet. But you can get to the next level.
Striving for that next level is important.
Nature designed with a random set of genes and circumstances in which we were born. To be happy, we have to accept it and make the most of nature's design. Are you? Goals will help you do that. I must add, don't just have career or academic goals. Set goals to give you a balanced, successful life. I use the word balanced before successful. Balanced means ensuring your
health, relationships, mental peace are all in good order.
There is no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup. There is
no fun in driving a car if your back hurts. Shopping is not enjoyable
if your mind is full of tensions.
You must have read some quotes - Life is a tough race, it is a marathon or whatever. No, from what I have seen so far, life is one of those races in nursery school, where you have to run with a marble in a spoon kept in your mouth. If the marble falls, there is no point coming first.
Same with life, where health and relationships are the marble. Your striving is only worth it if there is harmony in your life. Else, you may achieve the success, but this spark, this feeling of being excited and alive, will start to die.
One last thing about nurturing the spark - don't take life seriously. One of my yoga teachers used to make students laugh during classes. One student asked him if these jokes would take away something from the
yoga practice. The teacher said - don't be serious, be sincere. This quote has defined my work ever since. Whether its my writing, my job, my relationships or any of my goals.
I get thousands of opinions on my writing everyday. There is heaps of praise, there is intense criticism. If I take it all seriously, how will I write? Or rather, how will I live? Life is not to be taken seriously, as we are really temporary here. We are like a pre-paid card with limited validity. If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years. And 50 years is just 2,500 weekends. Do we really need to get so worked up? It's ok, bunk a few
classes, goof up a few interviews, fall in love. We are people, not programmed devices.
I've told you three things - reasonable goals, balance and not taking it too seriously that will nurture the spark. However, there are four storms in life that will threaten to completely put out the flame. These must be guarded against. These are disappointment, frustration, unfairness and loneliness of purpose.
Disappointment
will come when your effort does not give you the expected return. If things don't go as planned or if you face failure. Failure is extremely difficult to handle, but those that do come out stronger. What did this failure teach me? is the question you will need to ask. You will feel miserable. You will want to quit, like I wanted to when nine publishers rejected my first book. Some IITians kill themselves over low grades â€" how silly is that? But that is how much failure can hurt you. But it's life. If challenges could always be overcome, they would cease to be a challenge. And remember - if you are failing at something, that means you are at your limit or potential. And that's where you want to be.
Disappointment's cousin is frustration, the second storm.
Have you ever been frustrated? It happens when things are stuck. This is especially relevant in India. From traffic jams to getting that job you deserve, sometimes things take so long that you don't know if you chose the right goal.
After books, I set the goal of writing for Bollywood, as I thought they needed writers. I am called extremely lucky, but it took me five years to get close to a release. Frustration saps excitement, and turns your initial energy into something negative, making you a bitter person. How did I deal with it?
A realistic assessment of the time involved in movies take a long time to make even though they are watched quickly, seeking a certain enjoyment in the process rather than the end result in at least I was learning how to write scripts, having a side plan " I had my third book to write and even something as simple as pleasurable distractions in your life - friends, food, travel can help you overcome it. Remember, nothing is to be taken seriously. Frustration is a sign somewhere, you took it too seriously.
Unfairness
This is hardest to deal with, but unfortunately that is how our country works. People with connections, rich dads, beautiful faces, pedigree find it easier to make it in not just in Bollywood, but everywhere. And sometimes it is just plain luck. There are so few opportunities in India, so many stars need to be aligned for you to make it happen. Merit and hard work is not always linked to achievement in the short term, but the long term correlation is high, and ultimately things do work out. But realize, there will be some people
luckier than you. In fact, to have an opportunity to go to college and understand this speech in English means you are pretty damm lucky by Indian standards.
Let's be grateful for what we have and get the strength to accept what we don't. I have so much love from my readers that other writers cannot even imagine it. However, I don't get literary praise. It's ok. I don't look like Aishwarya Rai, but I have two boys who I think are more beautiful than her. It's ok. Don't let unfairness kill your spark.
Finally, the last point that can kill your spark is isolation.
As you grow older you will realize you are unique. When you are little, all kids want Ice cream and Spiderman. As you grow older to college, you still are a lot like your friends. But ten years later and you realize you are unique.What you want, what you believe in, what makes you feel, may be different from even the people closest to you. This can create conflict as your goals may not match with others. . And you may drop some of them. Basketball captains in college invariably stop playing basketball by the time they have their second child. They give up something that meant so much to them. They do it for their family. But in doing that, the spark dies. Never, ever make that compromise. Love yourself first,
and then others.
There you go. I've told you the four thunderstorms - disappointment, frustration, unfairness and isolation.
You cannot avoid them, as like the monsoon they will come into your life at regular intervals. You just need to keep the raincoat handy to not let the spark die.
I welcome you again to the most wonderful years of your life. If someone gave me the choice to go back in time, I will surely choose college. But I also hope that ten years later as well, your eyes will shine the same way as they do today. That you will Keep the Spark alive, not only through college, but through the next 2,500 weekends. And I hope not just you, but my whole country will keep that spark alive, as we really need it now more than any moment in history. And there is something cool about saying - I come from the land of a billion sparks.
Good Morning everyone and thank you for giving me this chance to speak to you. This day is about you. You, who have come to this college, leaving the comfort of your homes (or in some cases discomfort), to become something in your life.
I am sure you are excited. There are few days in human life when one is truly elated. The first day in college is one of them. When you were getting ready today, you felt a tingling in your stomach. What would the auditorium be like, what would the teachers be like, who are my new classmates - there is so much to be curious about.
I call this excitement, the spark within you that makes you feel truly alive today. Today I am going to talk about keeping the spark shining. Or to put it another way, how to be happy most, if not all the time.
Where do these sparks start? I think we are born with them. My 3-year old twin boys have a million sparks. A little Spiderman toy can make them jump on the bed. They get thrills from creaky swings in the park. A
story from daddy gets them excited. They do a daily countdown for birthday party â€" several months in advance â€" just for the day they will cut their own birthday cake.
I see students like you, and I still see some sparks. But when I see older people, the spark is difficult to find. That means as we age, the spark fades.People whose spark has faded too much are dull, dejected, aimless and bitter. Remember Kareena in the first half of Jab We Met vs the second half? That is what happens when the spark is lost. So how to save the spark?
Imagine the spark to be a lamp's flame. The first aspect is nurturing - to give your spark the fuel, continuously. The second is to guard against storms.
To nurture, always have goals. It is human nature to strive, improve and achieve full potential. In fact, that is success. It is what is possible for you. It isn't any external measure - a certain cost to company pay package, a particular car or house.
Most of us are from middle class families. To us, having material landmarks is success and rightly so. When you have grown up where money constraints force everyday choices,financial freedom is a big achievement. But it isn't the purpose of life. If that was the case, Mr. Ambani would not show up for work. Shah Rukh Khan would stay at home and not dance anymore. Steve Jobs won't be working hard to make a better iPhone, as he sold Pixar for billions of dollars already.
Why do they do it? What makes them come to work everyday?
They do it because it makes them happy.They do it because it makes them feel alive. Just getting better from current levels feels good. If you study hard, you can improve your rank. If you make an effort to
interact with people, you will do better in interviews. If you practice, your cricket will get better. You may also know that you cannot become Tendulkar, yet. But you can get to the next level.
Striving for that next level is important.
Nature designed with a random set of genes and circumstances in which we were born. To be happy, we have to accept it and make the most of nature's design. Are you? Goals will help you do that. I must add, don't just have career or academic goals. Set goals to give you a balanced, successful life. I use the word balanced before successful. Balanced means ensuring your
health, relationships, mental peace are all in good order.
There is no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup. There is
no fun in driving a car if your back hurts. Shopping is not enjoyable
if your mind is full of tensions.
You must have read some quotes - Life is a tough race, it is a marathon or whatever. No, from what I have seen so far, life is one of those races in nursery school, where you have to run with a marble in a spoon kept in your mouth. If the marble falls, there is no point coming first.
Same with life, where health and relationships are the marble. Your striving is only worth it if there is harmony in your life. Else, you may achieve the success, but this spark, this feeling of being excited and alive, will start to die.
One last thing about nurturing the spark - don't take life seriously. One of my yoga teachers used to make students laugh during classes. One student asked him if these jokes would take away something from the
yoga practice. The teacher said - don't be serious, be sincere. This quote has defined my work ever since. Whether its my writing, my job, my relationships or any of my goals.
I get thousands of opinions on my writing everyday. There is heaps of praise, there is intense criticism. If I take it all seriously, how will I write? Or rather, how will I live? Life is not to be taken seriously, as we are really temporary here. We are like a pre-paid card with limited validity. If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years. And 50 years is just 2,500 weekends. Do we really need to get so worked up? It's ok, bunk a few
classes, goof up a few interviews, fall in love. We are people, not programmed devices.
I've told you three things - reasonable goals, balance and not taking it too seriously that will nurture the spark. However, there are four storms in life that will threaten to completely put out the flame. These must be guarded against. These are disappointment, frustration, unfairness and loneliness of purpose.
Disappointment
will come when your effort does not give you the expected return. If things don't go as planned or if you face failure. Failure is extremely difficult to handle, but those that do come out stronger. What did this failure teach me? is the question you will need to ask. You will feel miserable. You will want to quit, like I wanted to when nine publishers rejected my first book. Some IITians kill themselves over low grades â€" how silly is that? But that is how much failure can hurt you. But it's life. If challenges could always be overcome, they would cease to be a challenge. And remember - if you are failing at something, that means you are at your limit or potential. And that's where you want to be.
Disappointment's cousin is frustration, the second storm.
Have you ever been frustrated? It happens when things are stuck. This is especially relevant in India. From traffic jams to getting that job you deserve, sometimes things take so long that you don't know if you chose the right goal.
After books, I set the goal of writing for Bollywood, as I thought they needed writers. I am called extremely lucky, but it took me five years to get close to a release. Frustration saps excitement, and turns your initial energy into something negative, making you a bitter person. How did I deal with it?
A realistic assessment of the time involved in movies take a long time to make even though they are watched quickly, seeking a certain enjoyment in the process rather than the end result in at least I was learning how to write scripts, having a side plan " I had my third book to write and even something as simple as pleasurable distractions in your life - friends, food, travel can help you overcome it. Remember, nothing is to be taken seriously. Frustration is a sign somewhere, you took it too seriously.
Unfairness
This is hardest to deal with, but unfortunately that is how our country works. People with connections, rich dads, beautiful faces, pedigree find it easier to make it in not just in Bollywood, but everywhere. And sometimes it is just plain luck. There are so few opportunities in India, so many stars need to be aligned for you to make it happen. Merit and hard work is not always linked to achievement in the short term, but the long term correlation is high, and ultimately things do work out. But realize, there will be some people
luckier than you. In fact, to have an opportunity to go to college and understand this speech in English means you are pretty damm lucky by Indian standards.
Let's be grateful for what we have and get the strength to accept what we don't. I have so much love from my readers that other writers cannot even imagine it. However, I don't get literary praise. It's ok. I don't look like Aishwarya Rai, but I have two boys who I think are more beautiful than her. It's ok. Don't let unfairness kill your spark.
Finally, the last point that can kill your spark is isolation.
As you grow older you will realize you are unique. When you are little, all kids want Ice cream and Spiderman. As you grow older to college, you still are a lot like your friends. But ten years later and you realize you are unique.What you want, what you believe in, what makes you feel, may be different from even the people closest to you. This can create conflict as your goals may not match with others. . And you may drop some of them. Basketball captains in college invariably stop playing basketball by the time they have their second child. They give up something that meant so much to them. They do it for their family. But in doing that, the spark dies. Never, ever make that compromise. Love yourself first,
and then others.
There you go. I've told you the four thunderstorms - disappointment, frustration, unfairness and isolation.
You cannot avoid them, as like the monsoon they will come into your life at regular intervals. You just need to keep the raincoat handy to not let the spark die.
I welcome you again to the most wonderful years of your life. If someone gave me the choice to go back in time, I will surely choose college. But I also hope that ten years later as well, your eyes will shine the same way as they do today. That you will Keep the Spark alive, not only through college, but through the next 2,500 weekends. And I hope not just you, but my whole country will keep that spark alive, as we really need it now more than any moment in history. And there is something cool about saying - I come from the land of a billion sparks.
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
engineering students vs modesty(other students)
this is what i am writing on my personal experience what i have heard its not necessary that everyone should agree to this..i am writing what i saw...
well...this we all have heard lacs of times and engineering students are tired of defending themselves and now got self agreed that engineering students are wrong, 11th hour studing, less IQ level than other faculty especially medical students..and on and on and on....this is i guess need some debating voice too....
i dont agree with all this for sure....
yes eng students have fun element in their lives or lets just say the masti element but is that so they are called irresponsible....??? living in a semester life we live in a bracket of submissions assignments, practicals, records, journals, notes, unit tests, internals/ externals etc...and still conquering to all this there are final 5 subjects too....i dont see this is an easy task as others say....the 11th hour study is because we have to complete the other issues too.....i have seen people praising medical students so much that i feel sick sometimes....i find it stupid though.
engineering students have dark sides i agree but dont have medical students have that??? i mean i am not bullying them but dont they have smoking, drinking, flirting, hostel life, night outs, last hour study things to them!!!! medical field is vast so engineering field dont have researches? 3 sub in 1 and half yr and making business of people life's medical field feels tht they are king!!!
i agree they are GOD for mankind but similarly engineers are too...from the smallest household things upto mobiles computers, cars, medical equipments, n number of things are made by engineers....
my point is this comparison has to stop...upto what time we will nod to the pointless things....!!! there is nothing in this world which is superior because GOD has made one thing up to another....the respect has to be there for every field because every field is a winner in its own!
well...this we all have heard lacs of times and engineering students are tired of defending themselves and now got self agreed that engineering students are wrong, 11th hour studing, less IQ level than other faculty especially medical students..and on and on and on....this is i guess need some debating voice too....
i dont agree with all this for sure....
yes eng students have fun element in their lives or lets just say the masti element but is that so they are called irresponsible....??? living in a semester life we live in a bracket of submissions assignments, practicals, records, journals, notes, unit tests, internals/ externals etc...and still conquering to all this there are final 5 subjects too....i dont see this is an easy task as others say....the 11th hour study is because we have to complete the other issues too.....i have seen people praising medical students so much that i feel sick sometimes....i find it stupid though.
engineering students have dark sides i agree but dont have medical students have that??? i mean i am not bullying them but dont they have smoking, drinking, flirting, hostel life, night outs, last hour study things to them!!!! medical field is vast so engineering field dont have researches? 3 sub in 1 and half yr and making business of people life's medical field feels tht they are king!!!
i agree they are GOD for mankind but similarly engineers are too...from the smallest household things upto mobiles computers, cars, medical equipments, n number of things are made by engineers....
my point is this comparison has to stop...upto what time we will nod to the pointless things....!!! there is nothing in this world which is superior because GOD has made one thing up to another....the respect has to be there for every field because every field is a winner in its own!
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
its I
me....this is what i am still figuring out because when i got the meaning of being me life put me at the stakes to do something opposite to my wish....
in childhood i used to think that bad people does not exist in this world and life is all about selflessness and caring for others more than anything else which i still feel
but this thinking of mine has dashed on every step of my life which i always try to figure out why.....
my school life was fantastic as my grades and my friends was always higher....i never had any outer life apart of my family and school and my books....like all other girls i was also the die hard movie fan where i used to think life main sab kuch movies jaisa hi hota hain...yeah i laugh on this too now....i hope that time i knew the practicality of life which i still dont know.
i entered in nagpur with same thinking....my new teenage life and my emotional impractical behavior encountered with eachother and made a fog in front of my eyes....which made me judge people in wrong way...i never knew the rituals of people that what they are in front of u the truth comes at back of u...
i used to thought inspite of this that people having bad habits there is always so many good things attched to it....this was my first biggest mistake in knowing the people which drag me towards sorrows......
i always put my self on the second place in my life and put everyone else my first priority...this was the thing where i got completely defeated.....because now sometimes it makes me feel i am standing on the edge of the cliff.......
some people in my life praised me for my behavior but when the time came to stand by me they hesitated saying this is all ur fault and we cant do anything for this....its ur life.......... u have to stand up on ur own.....i still find this funny.....because just saying this lines nothing changes it just shows u a part of life which i never saw before....
in all this ride of life very few people always stood by me in last 4 yrs and first one of them is my mom...yeah she scolds me for changing myself getting failures in studies and me being so idiot but she still somewhere is holding my hand.... in spite this that i never told her why exactly the most obedient and studios girl of hers became unsuccessful in life....i hope someday i will complete her dreams and will tell her what made me change so...
the other person is Ruchita my best friend she is one of those few person who hold me in my failures....frankly i just not only consider her as my best friend...she is my love my family too
exactly 4 yrs ago i met her and frankly i never thought that time this girl can become so important in my life...i talk to her 2-3 hrs on phone sometime but she never sighs neither she scold me for being me....she understands what i want to say if also i am not saying anything to her..i dont know with what kind of things GOD made her...but one thing i know she is being my angel...the hug i always wants from my mom which i hesitate to take she gives me....there are so many scenes happened when i was broken she hugged me on the crowded streets and never think what will people say.... she excepted me with my failures and always soothes me towards the successful path.....
Piyusha my sister.....well frankly my sister will laugh on this if she reads this that i can write a blog including her too and she will say this too "beta hech kar tu!!!!!!jaa abhyas kar blog exam madhye nahi yet lihayala"....but because i never told her she is important for me too so i am mentioning here abt it.....we had fights like the junglee cats do we scold eachother fights with each other, back stabs each other in front of mom too....but in all this there is a hell transparent relation of us too....yeah we are completely opposite to each other in every way and looking at life and living it but our relation is so strong that it again comes on the proper track.....
my small 10 yr old brother nishad is like this too.....we fight we do everything but still are bestfriends......(not writing abt him much)
there are 2 people and my other friends are there worth mentioning here but for them there is next blog...to be continued........
Sunday, March 14, 2010
hi.....
i dont think i should start this with the formal things because whatever i am writing is what my irrational thinking is.....(may be impractical too)....but yeah its nice to put ur fingers on keyboard instead of dashing head to the things which i dont like....
life....this is the question for everyone living it....whatever things we do what we do not do...everything is just around the globe of life...yeah there are so many philosophical definitions to define life but i dont think there is any perfect thing which is generated that can define the phenomena called life....but yeah trials are going on and in this race of finding life i am the one too...
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